真是一亿年都没来了，上一篇日志还是去年这个时候在新加坡写的呢，由于回来校园网的缘故，msn就被废弃了。看看那些日志还都是新加坡的宝贵回忆，好有感触阿。姐姐的朋友这学期也去新加坡交流，说的那些地方自己太熟悉不过了，那种心情太能理解了，当时自己也是个奋青，觉得国内教学一无是处，现在一年多已经又回到这种制度中而麻木了。

  我喜欢这个地方，因为它清静。在新加坡的时候也喜欢在这写点什么。校内网我几乎不写东西，那个地方人多眼杂，每每心情不爽想发泄一下的时候都顾虑重重，删删减减的，生怕写错了什么。校内网就好比把你的日记贴得满校园都是，远的近的所谓好友加一大堆，谁都能看，看了想多了怎么办，关系又不好了什么的，讨厌那么复杂。大学真是是非之地，寝室更是。

最后一节文学tutorial了，老师太好了，上节课他说这节课有东西吃，我还以为跟上次一样的tea呢，是department办的，还跟别人炫耀了一番当english major就是好，英语系有钱！可是来了才知道不是这样的，是老师自己出钱请我们到coffee去吃东西！好不好意思哦，这时候想要是自己平时学习好点就好了，可是每次tutorial就只能拖后腿，太。。。简直想找个洞钻进去！而且老师自己也是学生，我们二十来个人吃下来怎么也要近一百新币阿。。。老师太伟大了！她还跑到我们每个人那里问我们吃什么，一个一个点，然后我们吃完了她又加，5555好感动哦，想想原来还因为我们老师打分比别的tutor低说她太严格了呢。。。

最后一篇文学的essay也发了，虽然跟上次的分数也差不了多少，可是最令我高兴的是除了grammar, sentence structure这些硬伤还是有点问题，还是有进步的（不过也可能是到期末了老师评改不认真了？）

我们是如果well done, OK 就是勾，acceptiable, but could be better 就是圈，problem, needs improving 就是叉。以前我的organization不是叉就是圈，简直乱七八糟，由于最后一篇的痛苦挣扎，终于是勾了（笑），还有以前的除了orginality, length, on time这些无关紧要的是勾，其他什么coherent argument, transition, comprehension of sources...的都是圈或介于圈叉之间，现在都是勾了，哈哈（狂喜），其实也都是自我安慰罢了，比起他们local的文章还差的远呢，他们至少在grammar上什么早都不是问题了，有同学说得好，他们的文章在国内都不是当范文的，都是当阅读的，狂晕。。。

 

昨天是生平第一次献血，我却献给了新加坡！

其实以前一直惧怕献血，因为太多负面新闻，本来是好心救人，却落到自己悲惨的地步真是太可怜了:(所以一直拒绝跟外界有血液接触。可是这一次我觉得新加坡红十字会跟学校一起组织应该比较正规吧，而且献一下血自己一阵子就可以恢复过来了，却说不定可以挽救那个未曾谋面人的生命，也是人生非常有意义的事情，大家有难都需要别人帮助，自己没有那么多财力不能捐献什么希望小学，尽自己微薄的力量积善行德吧。

由于从来没有过，所以当然有点紧张，而且去了以后还犹豫了一下，因为国内第一次献血只能献200ml，一般每人最多也就献400ml，可是我第一次就献了。。。450ml，吓得妈妈紧张心疼得不得了:(可能是新加坡人太少了，就需要多“压迫”一下正常人吧？！觉得来新加坡学习没学好，做了件好事也算美好回忆。。。姐姐说为什么不献给中国？其实首先国际友谊，救哪里的人不是救，二是其实自己还是。。。看到中国的献血车。。。哪敢上去，恐怖死了！

这几天要好好休息了，发了补铁的药了，按时吃。

kamille别担心我，我很快就会好起来的:)

最后谢谢阿布的关注

借用这个题目，是因为这曾经是我最喜欢的韩剧，也可以说是真正的爱情启蒙剧，当年的演员早已退出舞台成为了生活中的无名小卒，有时候真不禁想知道他们的生活是否因为演了这么一部婚姻剧而有所改变。不要再看青春偶像剧，绝对是爱情的误导。

并不想发表对爱情的什么高深的想法，只想纪录我的成长感想。昨天跟妈妈聊天的时候说我发现我活这么大真是一个单纯的白痴，想当年就知道学习了，都没有早恋积累一点恋爱经验，真是个十足的乖小孩。其实上了大学后就发现了自己阅历的空白，确切地说是惨白。很搞笑得是，难道我天生长着一张早恋的脸？周围所有人都不相信我没谈过恋爱。我当时觉得男女生之间那种朦胧的暧昧关系是最甜蜜的感觉，在我的价值观里爱情是开往婚姻的地铁，既要达到幸福的终点又要享受沿途的风光，又好像人的左右手，离开了任何一个，另一方都不会完成精美的作品，因此在没有能力面对婚姻的时候，爱情显得那么肤浅跟危险。我从来也不相信婚姻是爱情的坟墓，虽然我知道拿到结婚证那一刻心理变化的必然，但至少我希望我的婚姻，即便是几十年后，除了亲情还有爱情的温暖。

可是男女相处之道可能是唯一一种永远不会有百科全书的东西，一个爱情的厨师，把握火候真是最艰难的工作。彼此都不认真的爱情只是游戏，女的认真男的不认真的爱情注定是悲剧，男的认真女的儿戏的爱情是悲喜剧，男女都认真的爱情是。。。永远都写不完的剧。

一直都在认真学习，即使这不像一个单词或者一本书那样容易掌握。。。记得有话说得好：

If you are unhappy with your relationship, you probably feel that you're not getting as much as you are giving. Marriage is a 60/60 proposition. Each person has to to a little more than what he thinks his share is.

爱在于永远比得到的多奉献一点！

Reader's Digest 上一篇良好婚姻每天要做的三十三件事的文章也着实让我获益匪浅。告诉自己既然自己是白痴，就努力学习！

1. Say thank you at least once a day. You thank others for the little courtesies they do you. But do you thank your partner for his or hers? If she makes you breakfast every morning, thank her -- and mean it. (How many wives make such a loving gesture?) If he took out the trash without your asking, thank him -- even if it's his job. Saying, "Thanks!" once a day can help you avoid taking each other for granted.

2. Praise your partner for the little things. If there's something you appreciate about your partner, from the way she makes scrambled eggs to how hard he's working on the kitchen-remodeling project, speak up! Praising your partner reminds him (or her) that you love him (or her), and knowing you are loved makes you more willing to iron out differences.

3. Do small kindnesses for your partner. The good we do tends to come back to us. When you're thoughtful to your partner, she's more inclined to be thoughtful in return. So pick up each other's favorite dessert, clip or e-mail articles you think your spouse might like, make a favorite dinner, take on the other's chores, give your spouse a day off with no chores or expectations.

4. Deliver on your promises. Failing to keep your word can destroy the unity and trust in a relationship. It's better to say, "Let me think about it" than say you will do something but drop the ball.

5. Play a game of show and tell. Though it sounds X-rated, what we're suggesting is that you and your partner take turns choosing an arts or cultural event to attend together each month. The point is to show your partner what you love, so that he/she can experience it as you do (or close enough). To make this work, both of you have to be flexible: You may have to attend the Saturday-night race at the local dirt track, and he may have to go to the community theater with you. But the reward lies in experiencing each other's delight and sharing something of yourselves with each other. And who knows -- you may have a lot more fun than you ever imagined.

6. Kiss under a full moon. On a gorgeous evening, spread a blanket under the night sky and drink in the beauty and quiet of your surroundings together. You can talk if you wish, or simply savor the silence and being together, side by side, under the stars.

7. Make a fun, flirty change to your appearance. Want to make him sit up and take notice? Color your hair, wear lipstick if you normally don't, or wear a pretty nightie to bed instead of your flannel pajamas. Want her to suddenly get the urge to run her fingers over your chest? Try a sexy black shirt or unusually tight trousers. The simplest change in your appearance can show your partner you care enough to catch his/her eyes, helping rekindle the chemistry that brought you together in the first place.

8. Play the newlywed game. Do something for your partner that you did when you were newlyweds. Bake him a batch of homemade brownies. Send her flowers after a night of lovemaking. Tuck little notes into his briefcase or leave sexy messages on her voice mail.

9. Have a conversation about the big things in life. When you were courting, did you talk for hours about current events or the meaning of life? If all you seem to talk about now is the grocery list or how much to spend on a new sofa, reintroduce meaningful conversation into your relationship. Asking her about her day isn't enough. Try this: One night while you're in front of the TV or in the car, make a provocative (but not hurtful) remark about something your partner deeply cares about -- the guy in the White House, a favorite sports team -- something that will get his/her dander up. He'll disagree, of course, which will get the ball rolling. Keep it rolling!

10. Develop a common interest. The couple that play together, stay together. To keep your relationship fresh and vibrant, think of an activity that both you and your partner enjoy, and do it together. The possibilities are endless: gardening, sports, attending classes or cultural events together, walking, hiking, working on home projects. How to get your partner to join you? Be sneaky. Say you need his/her help in the garden, want to do minor remodeling to the bathroom, that a friend just happened to give you two tickets to whatever. Chances are, he/she will have a wonderful time and want to do it again. In time, it may become a regular part of your life together.

11. Do service projects together. Giving to others moves you out of yourself and your own problems and supports a broader, more spiritual view of life. Again, try to pick a service or organization that appeals to you both, whether it's a mentoring program for disadvantaged youth or working weekends in the local soup kitchen.

12. Rekindle your spirituality. If you're both interested in spiritual or religious activities, try some religious study together. If you both pray, praying together can be extremely intimate. Same goes for meditation or other spiritual or religious rituals.

13. Get active together. Are you both a few pounds heavier than when you first met? Engaging in a physical activity that you both enjoy can be as good for your marriage as it is for your body, and can reinforce the fact that you're a team of two. You needn't run a marathon together (although training for one could provide a lot of couple time). How about tennis? Golf? Swimming? Even gardening can be a workout, if you're landscaping the yard or tending a large flower or vegetable garden.

14. Set movie night once a month. All right, so he loves sci-fi and action, while you prefer romantic comedies. She is strictly chick-flick and you're super hero. Doesn't matter. To find common ground, select movies for the characters, not the genre. For example, in The English Patient, one gets espionage and adventure; the other gets a love story. In Jerry Maguire, there's football for one, Tom Cruise for the other. And if he wants to have a John Wayne film festival, gently direct him toward shoot-'em-ups that appeal to women, such as The Last of the Mohicans, starring Daniel Day-Lewis.

15. Each morning, ask, "What's on your agenda today?" Does he have a big meeting? Is she dreading a phone call to an important client? Is she having lunch with an old friend? Talking about the daily details of your lives is just as important as sharing hopes, dreams, and fears, so asking about those details is a great way to build understanding and rapport. And don't forget to ask how that meeting, phone call, or lunch turned out. Your thoughtfulness will make your partner feel loved and cared for

16. Treat your spouse with respect and admiration in public. Whether you're at a party, a business meeting, or just strolling down the street, give him or her subtle signals of your connection. Hold his hand. Smile at her. Put your arm around her. And never, ever, make fun of your partner in public.

17. Walk out your disagreements. When you and your partner are at odds, ask him if he'd like to go for a walk to hash things out. Being outdoors and walking at a steady pace can melt away the tension so it's easier to talk honestly, form compromises, or apologize.

18. Learn -- and use -- the Serenity Prayer. When you see his towel on the floor instead of in the hamper, resist the urge to complain. While it's understandably irritating, it will undoubtedly happen again...and again...and again. When you start to sweat the small stuff, recite the Serenity Prayer: "God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference." You'll be amazed at how quickly your resentment melts away.

19. Give your demands a makeover. You want him to hang a shelf? Mow the lawn? Asking her to throw in a load of laundry? Make sure you ask, rather than demand. We all tend to respond better to requests than orders. For example, instead of saying, "You should...," say, "Could you...?" And instead of saying, "Why didn't you...?" say, "Next time it would help me if you could try to..."

20. Try to air grievances at the same time each week. We know what you're thinking -- who would do this? But consider this: If you and your partner discuss what's bothering you in a structured, formal way, these issues won't come up so often at other times, and if they do, you'll be able to discuss them more calmly. One more thing: Make the meeting formal. Sit down, turn off the television, and let the answering machine pick up calls.

21. Cuddle in the morning. You may associate snuggling with bedtime, and it is a lovely way to end the day. But cuddling in the morning will keep you feeling close to each other all day. So set the alarm clock five minutes early and snuggle. You can talk, or not. What's important is that you both start the day connecting physically and feeling secure and loved.

22. Schedule time for lovemaking. Yes, you're both busy. But don't let your schedules stand in the way of an activity that's so crucial to a loving, intimate relationship. The lovemaking may not be as spontaneous as you'd prefer, but there's something nice about looking forward to a night (or morning, or afternoon) of sex.

23. Always turn in together. This may take some compromise on both your parts. If your partner is dead tired, give up your nightly ritual (television, surfing the Internet, whatever) and follow him to bed at least a few nights a week. Talk about the day, or simply snuggle while each of you reads. And if you're the morning person, maybe you can stay up to watch the eleven o'clock news. The point is, you're together when the house is quiet and the demands of the day are done. Make the most of it!

24. Make sure your bedroom is a sanctuary. Your bed is not the place to argue, or bring up complicated subjects, or discuss difficult parenting issues. Your bed is a place for good things only -- sleep, companionship, romance. If it becomes a place for hard talks and critiques, one of you will eventually feel your bedroom is emotionally unsafe, and you'll start to avoid each other. If this is already going on, you need to stop it -- declare the bedroom a safe zone, and that all serious discussions are to take place earlier and elsewhere.

25. Pursue your own interests. Go ahead, take that writing class -- or pursue any other interest you might have outside of those you share with your partner. It makes you more interesting to your partner and everyone else. Moreover, a little "me time" allows both you and your partner to grow as individuals and reduces the pressure on each of you to fill the other's every need.

26. Have a regular girls' (or boys') night out. Every woman needs time with other women, just as every man needs a night out with the guys. If it's been a while since you've connected with friends or relatives, get on the phone and start arranging a day -- or night -- spent in their company.

27. Take a weekend getaway. If you present the idea to your partner as an adventure, he'll be more inclined to get into the act. Once you've gotten him excited, the fun begins: deciding where you'll go, what you'll do, and how you'll get there. And to make sure he's invested in the idea, let him in on the planning. Pore over maps and the travel section of the newspaper together. Discuss whether you should splurge on a room with a hot tub or a fireplace.

28. Renew your vows. Renewing your vows renews your commitment not only to your partner but also to keeping passion and intimacy in your relationship. You can do it once a year by taking a romantic getaway on your anniversary or make it a once-in-lifetime event.

29. Write him a love letter or send her a love e-mail. Don't worry that you're "not a writer" -- be simple and sincere, rather than trying too hard to be romantic. On simple but good-quality stationery, describe to your partner how he/she makes you feel. Mention specific qualities he/she possesses that you appreciate, or little quirks you find endearing. Recall your past times together and describe your hopes for the future. Slip the letter into an envelope and tuck it in a briefcase or purse. (Just be careful your partner doesn't pull it out at an important business meeting.) If your partner is the type to snort at a love letter, send an e-mail at work.

30. Read the comics out loud to each other and share funny stories from your day. A 2004 study found that sharing humorous experiences significantly reduced the amount of conflict couples felt.

31. Go shopping (or watch a ball game) with a close friend. One study found that couples who have individual friendships outside their marriage were more satisfied with their marital relationships than those who didn't.

32. Demonstrate your love by working to improve something about yourself that bugs your partner. For instance, if she prefers you thin, join the gym or take up a nightly walk (preferably with her). If he's a neat freak, stop throwing your dirty socks on the floor and leaving your dishes in the sink. Saying "I love you" is always nice, but showing it is really fundamental.

33. Always put your marriage first, even if you have a houseful of kids. This is a golden rule: Of all your relationships, your spouse always comes first. After all, the kids are going to leave someday soon; hopefully, your partner isn't. Plus, giving up your life as a couple to indulge your children simply sets an uninspiring example: Grow up, become an adult, then you, too, can subjugate your existence to that of your children. Putting your marriage first means things like deliberately setting aside time for the two of you, whether it's a weekly date, a nightly bath together, or dinner alone a few nights a week (feed the kids early).

 

看完很感动，很有收获，他同样适用于爱情。

《人鱼小姐》是另一部我很喜欢的韩剧，虽然是一部悲剧，可是却是生活的老师。

 

 

 

 

昨天去了新加坡最有名的夜间动物园，由于回来的太晚，就只有今天补上了。

要想看到动物原貌可千万不要只一两个人来，因为只有徒步穿越恐怖阴森的森林小径才能近距离得仔细观察，要是一两个人，就需要相当的勇气跟方向感了。最好是有红外望远镜，因为大黑天的煞是考验眼力呢，不然就只能看到轮廓或者移动的大型物体了。

因为一行十人，所以我这种方向盲就只要夹在队伍中间跟着走就行了，到一处停下来拍个照片什么的。说道照片才郁闷呢，为了保护动物跟自己的安全（不伤害它们的眼睛，也不激怒它们）所以闪光灯是禁用的，这样照相的难度不知加大了多少，我尽量不动还是很难照好。。。哎，就这样吧。

看到了很多特别奇怪的动物，可能因为他们只在晚上活动，所以白天的动物园是看不到的。比如胡须猪，你都想象不出来它其实是巨大的胖胖的动物，比猪不知道大几倍，还有鹿猪？！呵呵，也很奇怪。还有鼠鹿，叫鹿其实比像兔子那么大，长得酷似老鼠。还有零距离感受一下蝙蝠。。。恩，其实最可爱的是眼睛猴，可是它太害羞，不出来，我们就只有看录像了。

看了动物表演，对动物没留下深刻的印象，倒是特别喜欢那个主持人（晕吧），口语很好呢，还特幽默，呵呵。

本来出来的时候看中了一个tiger的毛绒玩具，真是可爱死了，可是太贵了。。。对了，我们一进门还看见一个大型鱼缸，马上跑过去看，其实是toilet，尴尬死了。。。

虽然没有想象中的那么好，可是能有这样的体验已经很值得了！

最近学了五十音图，完全是初学者，呵呵，什么都不会，也不太用功，多亏了旸旸老师教得好又有耐心，呵呵，好开心！

 

NUS在某些方面还是很能体现出世界名校的风范的，比如说这种校园concert（还基本都是免费的），真是让人觉得不虚此行呢。NUS为自己音乐学院的学生提供了专门的音乐厅演奏，也就是我们经常可以听到的小型音乐会，比如我上次去听的钢琴演奏，就很棒，既锻炼了学生，主要是满足了我们的需求（呵呵），这也是一种普及音乐提高素养的方式吧。这次，也就是昨晚是日本的一个管弦乐团澳大利亚-新加坡-澳门巡回演出，全是莫扎特的曲目，真是震撼的让人流泪，陶醉到忘我。每个曲目后掌声都经久不息，就连他们本身合唱队的人也不禁唱完后偷偷擦眼泪。。。听后心情真是好极了！

也由于听完音乐会拿了新加坡美术馆的宣传资料，突然很想去新加坡美术馆，而且由于今天是马来人过年，所以是免费入场。也许是今天比较热，再加上自己一个人去，所以心情欠佳，一开始还走错方向了，郁闷，所以到了美术馆就。。。其实说实话还是比较不错的，但展出的都是新加坡艺术家的作品，没有想象中的好，开始没注意到no photo，所以第一个展馆还是拍了的（好窘。。。）以后的我就装作素质高一点没拍。。。我最喜欢的是今天它是什么。。。我也忘了，就是到那里的小朋友可以作画，然后贴到长长的一面墙上，感觉不错，艺术细胞从小培养！

除了美术馆发现新加坡国家博物馆就在附近，所以走街串巷，终于找到了，结果它内部在修，今天只有一个日本的电影节，要一点才开始，不想等了，于是原路返回。这时候这是已经很累了呢，还那么热。。。走到raffles的shopping mall就进去逛了一会儿（主要是有冷气），然后出来决定把四周也转转，就徒步把city hall附近都玩了，今天不是出游的好日子，因为满街都是马来人，真是太多了。。。恐怖！不知不觉走到了“大榴莲”了，穿过去发现了--merlion，那个吐水的鱼尾狮，由于太远了实在不想走过去了，这里的新加坡河倒是比克拉码头的宽一些。。。

现在已经累得不行了，本想再去那里，可体力实在支持不住了，就坐mrt回去吧，到了金文泰不禁又想去买东西吃，就又买了好多。觉得自己都接近小资了。。。这回买了红豆和糖，可以煮红豆粥了，还有梨跟枸杞子，可以煮水果汤，枸杞子可以泡水（妈妈再三嘱咐），恩，还有紫菜跟蟹味棒，自己做海鲜面，买了燕麦，可以不想吃面的时候吃。。。

总之除了累还是挺有收获的，不过今天突然感觉新加坡好小阿，其实也没什么玩的。。。（晕）

每次去fairprice买东西，都感觉自己是一个不折不扣的家庭主妇。先列好清单，然后一一挑选，也会在超市的售货架前徘徊好久，算出每kg最划算的牌子什么的。。。都在计划之中，青菜可以煮面的时候吃（而且价钱很便宜），胡萝卜用来生吃对眼睛好（我觉得生吃那种小小的细细的最好，个人经验。。。），西红柿既可以饭后当水果吃也可以做饭吃（这边的好像跟国内不太一样，都比较青），不愁吃不完，呵呵，木瓜是必买的水果（哈哈，又降价了），可以闲的时候切成小块放到保险盒里每餐后吃一点，也可以某个下午或晚上直接就吃半个什么的，这几天皮肤不太好，跟免疫系统有关，应该多吃Vc，所以买了杨桃（因为喜欢吃酸的所以挑绿的买的，结果稍微有点涩，还好），还买了火龙果。。。（好宠自己啊！突然自己变这么奢侈了？！）恩，还有最近有点想吃玉米了，就买了两个，不过怎么做还要再斟酌。买了很好喝的HL牛奶（两升阿，沉死了，所以不买果汁了），本来还想买榴莲糖，可这个超市太小了，没找到。。。

买了这么多沉的东西的结果就是回不来了，太恐怖了，都不是忍一会儿的问题，而且乘车卡也没钱了，还要跑到mrt里面去充（本想先充的，可是没有零钱），晕了。回来以后累死了，脚都磨破了。然后换了衣服拿去洗，收拾了房间，去洗澡，然后煮面吃，吃水果。。。还挺充实呢！如果不出什么意外今天晚上还可以去concert。

就是干这些事情的时候都是一个人有点孤单阿，要真是这样的家庭主妇也太可怜了，买东西的时候要是有车就不用这么沉了，所有东西都买给自己吃太没成就感了，55555555，这就是单身贵族吧，一人吃饱全家不饿，呵呵

昨天去了圣淘沙，新加坡比较著名的景点，其实就是觉得应该去看看，倒是对海边没别人那么狂热的兴趣。

这里的海与与烟台的海风格迥异，原本期待着那一股咸咸的腥腥的味道能给我好似回家的感觉，可这清的似淡水般的海水，还有薄薄的硬的沙滩都显露出过多人工的修饰，这里的海太秀气了，丝毫没有威严的恐吓感，这是我第一次见到比烟台还要秀气的海。不过这种无法抵挡的热带风情还是着实令我沉醉，不禁让我想起了麦兜的名言“椰林树影。。。”什么的。

看到了最大的鱼尾狮，感觉造的有点粗糙，见到它让人感动不起来，过于凶悍的表情跟sentosa的风格似乎有点不符，也就是旅游象征罢了，都不愿意多看第二眼。倒是一个儿童嬉戏的小水池里玩的开心的各国的像洋娃娃一样的小孩子让我们忍不住多看几眼，真是羡煞人也，一家人出来好开心，我们都不禁感叹--这就是生活！

新加坡万象馆是介绍新加坡历史的一个蜡像馆，觉得还不错，这种讲解历史的方式比起黑白照片或者是古董残片什么的要形象有趣，而且少了压迫感，但毕竟新加坡的历史太短了，这种展出缺乏充实感与真实感。

晚上的音乐喷泉就是集水、火、声光电一身的演出，觉得新加坡人还真是聪明，也真是幸福。忙了一个周，周末的时候可以全家人，或跟同学好友到这里打沙滩排球，或者踢足球，然后美美的吃上一餐，晚上去看喷泉，听爵士乐，然后返航，成本不高，但绝对享受！

在屋子里闷了这么久，出来玩心情顿时不一样，觉得适当的调剂还是必要的，甚至觉得这比购物来的还要值得。

  虽然知道作为exchange在这边学习文科的课程是很辛苦又得不到分的事情，但还是会有不服，想要打破这种 stereotype。事实是my pride hurts!

  我在武大花一两个小时写的文章就可以得到九十分，而且不论我用词多么简单，我表达的内容是否完整，我都有自信自己做的很好。可是在这里却完全相反。我花两三天，甚至更长时间，耗尽心血写的essay总是被老师批得一无是处。我的逻辑联结有问题，我的过渡有问题，我的句子结构有问题，我的语法有问题。。。这些硬伤不说，我的essay没有完全回答题目的要求，我写的论据doesnot make sense!我的essay简直就是幼稚园的垃圾文章！虽然我知道要受挫折教育，这些国内老师无法指出的错误是永远都会存在的，总在国内老师的娇宠下，吹捧下最后受害的是我，可为什么不能有个过程呢？我是说这个由天堂到地狱的转变来的太突然，一时间真的好难接受。

  我真的担心我的及格问题了，在国内不及格那简直就是笑话，我真要努力一番才行呢。可是在这，我已经百分之十的信心都没有了。我突然意识到如果我没来新加坡呢？我在武大不进一班呢？我永远躺在四班的安乐窝里，我永远都可以争第一，我永远都被别人用羡慕的眼光看着。。。我突然有了初中升高中的恐惧，初中时的样样first one导致了其实自己什么都不是还全然不知，在中考的时候被狂泼冷水。现在这样就要等到考研的时候死了。

  不要劝我现在这样对我以后好，其实我什么都明白，可我也是人，我也有自尊心。就像是从小在金窝里长大的孩子受不了贫苦生活，毕竟我不够坚强的，而且是很不坚强，我承认我perfectionist，甚至都快乌托邦了，怎么办，完全颠覆二十年来的value谈何容易！！！老师说宁为凤尾无为鸡头，可我真不这样觉得，做不了凤头，鸡头不也很好。

  自己的blog好消极阿，妈妈说简直是talk rubbish!可我记blog不是总结学习经验，而是真实记录我的心路历程，至少在没人讲话的时候可以发泄一下，即便是以后看起来可笑至少它是值得的。

  等了将近三个礼拜终于等到了的一天我的眼镜终于到了，哈哈。拿到特快的那一刻好像不怎么兴奋了，等你等的太久了。奇怪的一件事是眼镜好像是被hall里拆开又合上了，因为邮包的一边的胶是被拆开的，然后他又在上面封了个袋子装我的邮单，没见过这种邮法可是想想怎么可能私拆别人信件呢？也许我少见多怪吧（希望是）。

  眼镜没了散光就是不清楚，我在怀疑自己是否看的是重影的，戴起来有点不适应，希望不要把眼睛戴坏才好啊（担心ing）。镜框跟原来的大同小异，可是没有原来的适合我，至少我现在还不太适应，不过自己没亲自去买这样已经很不错了，这两个月有眼镜就不错了，还祈求抱怨什么呢？只是现在不知道这种不完全清楚的眼镜是平时一直戴好还是只有上课戴好，我倾向于前一种，因为实在平时看不清很痛苦，但要是后一种对眼睛好呢？我怎么这么患得患失的。不知道，先这么戴着吧，谢谢双林帮我！

  最后祝kamille妈妈生日快乐！

  这个电脑自从买了后就没让我省过心，今天终于达到了极点，在众多病毒的摧残下终于要重装了。怎么办？对于我这个电脑半白痴来说除了着急就是恐惧了。我只能试一试了，实在不行我就拿到IT coop去，哪怕花点钱，自己也省事。可是真的是出乎我的意料，acer的recovery就是为我们这种白痴准备的，一步一步清楚有趣，很快就搞定了。接下来就是恢复我原来的设置什么的了，没想到全靠自己也可以做的这么好。最令我高兴的是那个nus的垃圾查毒（杀不了）软件终于没有了，现在是诺顿，很不错，终于有安全感了，早知道这样一回来就recover了，害的我被折磨了两个月！我发现我被nus骗了，其实根本不用那个什么domain就可以，现在没有那个电脑还快些，而且开机不用登陆那么麻烦了。nus装的软件没什么用，现在没了电脑好干净！现在心情好很多，发现其实有些事情也不是我想象的那么难，妈妈就说我总是畏难情绪，是我觉得失败可怕，也许有了这些经历就会慢慢胆子大起来吧。

  好了，这几天皮肤已经毁的差不多了，晚睡早起了。决定开学了等眼镜到了就真的可以一切正常了，哈哈。

  今天是国庆节，不过在这边一点气氛都没有，倒是只能感觉到明天就要开学了。

  努力了两天终于把哲学的论文搞定了，这个比文学的还难，文学不过就是回答问题+分析+文采，这个要argue+逻辑+自圆其说，难啊！其实说实话写到最后都有点质疑而动摇了，可还得硬着头皮说下去，唉，终于体会到了律师的痛苦，就是哪怕你深信自己的辩护人有罪也要不停的为他平反。我们更糟糕的是还不能下结论，就是让你argue你就argue好了，太。。。哲学就是深奥！

  感谢周一直关注我的blog,当然还有谁谁我就不在这表扬了，主要是应邀post我的essay在这里，第一篇文学的年代有点久远了，就把新写的哲学的共享这里吧(open to abuse)

topic:

In Meno (pp. 57-59) Socrates argues that 'no one ever wants bad things'. What is the argument to this conclusion? What is the stongest counter-example to this conclusion you can think of? What is the best response Socrates' could make to your counter-example?

 

My argument:

In Meno Socrates says that “Don’t you think, my good man, that all men desire good things?” “no one wants what is bad”1 . It is seemingly fair, but if we examine it closely, it is not difficult to find out that whether the conclusion is right or wrong, it itself has a logic fallacy2 . In other words, if we draw the conclusion that “all men…” or “no men…” , actually we have ignored the accidents. Supposing we agree with Socrates--no one wants bad things, what if there is a Mr. P, who is mad, wanting others to kill himself for no reason? Obviously what he wants is a bad thing!
  On the other hand, if Socrates here presumes “generally, most men desire good things”, we can’t help asking another question--what are the meanings of “good things” and “bad things” here? Just as Socrates puts it in the same passage that “if I don’t know what something is, how could I know what it’s like?”3 But Socrates himself doesn’t clarify them in the passage. Though bad and good are relative concepts and different person has different value, there is no point arguing what does “bad” and “good” mean in this passage according to one’s own value. Why is that? Perhaps my friend A sees smoking good and wants it while B thinks it bad but still wants it. You can’t judge who is right. So in this sense, some people want bad things and some good. What we can say is that, generally, bad is a word used to describe  unpleasant ,things, feelings, or events. bad things may“hurtful or injurious to somebody or something”.Sometimes it refers to “not morally acceptable, wicked”.4  
    Thus drugs are a good counter-example to Socrates. Drugs can make people addicted to them and will ruin people’s health gradually. So we can call drugs bad things. But isn’t there any one who wants them? Yes, indeed. But you might say that it is because their drug addiction not their will that they need drugs, not want drugs. They are objectively compelled to need them. As to the beginning, they take them for good and want them. So they want good things. Actually, quite a number of people know the harm of drugs and are aware of  the consequences beforehand. The curiosity of the short-time-pleasure generated by drugs doesn’t mean they mistake them for good. It only means bad things may benefit them for a while, but you can’t say they are good things. And such depraved pleasure is also morally not a good thing.
  Therefore, “What they want are things they think are good, but which are in fact bad”5 is a only kind of case. There are people who mistake the bad for the good. At the same time, some people know it’s bad and will harm them but worthwhile (not good) and still want them, such as smoking, gambling and suicide etc.
  Let us reinforce this point by looking at some other dialogues of Socrates-meno.

S: And do you think that those who believe that bad things benefit them know that they are bad?
M: No, that doesn’t seem right at all.

S: And don’t they think those who are harmed are wretched to the extent that they are harmed?
M: That seems unavoidable.
S: And don’t they think those who are wretched are miserable?
M: I think so.
S: Is there anyone who wants to be wretched and miserable?
M: I don’t think so, Socrates.5

 

  Socrates thinks that if people know something will benefit them, they either mistake it for good or the thing itself is indeed good. Bad things will harm them and make them wretched. That is:
p: People want bad things.
q: Bad things will harm people and make them wretched.
If p then q
No one want to be wretched--not q
 so no one wants bad things. --then not p
  How wonderful demonstration! But are you take it for granted that all bad things will harm people and all things benefit us are good ones? There are indeed bad things which will benefit us or at least benefit us for a while and won‘t make us wretched. For instance, frustrations. You may succeed, but you also may fail after frustrations. Objectively speaking, we can’t call frustrations good things. It is more suitable to what we mean bad things. Frustrations sometimes will do a lot of  benefit and won’t make us wretched. So some people want them just to strengthen their will. Once again, drug can reduce the pain of cancer patients but will not cure the disease. Cancer patients know drugs are bad and will make them addict to them. And if they are painful next time, the amount of drug will be added and maybe the drug will accelerate the death of the patient but only reduce pain for a while. But they want the pain reduced. Do drugs make them wretched? Of course not. So
q’: Bad things can benefit people and won’t make them wretched.
  Why not if p then q’? So if p, then q or q’ . Only when not q and not q’ are both available can we draw the conclusion not p.

 

 Notes:
1 pp.57-59
2  “the fallacy of accident” http://www.fallacyfiles.org/accident.html
3  Meno pp.42-43
4  Oxford Advanced English Dictionary
5 Meno pp.58-59

  又是好久没写了自上次blog后发生了很多事呢，但现在心情比上次要好得多哦。终于卸下了好久的负担，虽然永远都不能像没事人一样轻松，但至少愧疚感减少了好多，不用再无休止的自我折磨。为什么人们会喜欢选择隐瞒？其实很简单，就是哪怕知道说出来的结果也没有勇气去打破现在美好的一切，似乎再苦也可以默默独自承受。我不觉得这有什么可悲，因为亲身感受过才更能理解这种心情，当你知道是拿无法挽回的东西做赌注时，决不会像一般的赌徒那样输的释然。

  这个周是nus的recess，我觉得这是一个很坏的主意，至少对我。我这个礼拜有一多半的时间花在了睡眠上面，本想复习一下功课，可是眼睛也看不清，看一会儿就累的眼睛疼，真想马上收到眼镜阿，一切都进入正轨才好。而且hall里没饭吃，我开始决定自己动手，丰衣足食，可是买了菜发现厨房没有油，这几天不知道哪个好心人放了一瓶，可还不到一天就被用到差不多了，我也要抓紧行动，今天小试牛刀，发现自己做的真是。。。难吃。。。怎么也是自己做的怎么说也是经济又有营养

  机票终于买了，松了口气，也看到回家的希望了，就是这一路要受罪了，没有吃的喝的，还要狂颠，还好就三个小时，忍了，比起多花一千多还是划算一点吧

  I have to admit that I am not happy here because everything seems out of my control. I know that I shouldn't regret, for it is such a precious opportunity. But I cannot help dreaming about the happy life if I were still in China. NO busy homework, no confusing tutorials, no worry about grades and no loneliness! I can go shopping with my dear sister, go outing with my roommates and buy whatever I want. How I want to hug my BF and say I love you! How I want to share his unhappiness when he is upset! How I want to eat snacks with my dormmates while chatting and laughing! Mum says that I am improvidence and I think I am. But this is me, I'd rather choose happiness than study and work. Am i right or not?

  我们translation的forum展开讨论说blog大陆翻译成“博客”，香港翻成“部落格”，哪个比较好，百分之九十的人认为部落格好，我就觉得还是博客比较贴切，恩恩

 I am so ashamed that I am not a persistant person that my space soon becomes a desert place. I should admit that it seems not so appearing to me & I gradually lose the passion to share my feelings. And another reason is that i was busy with my first essay the previous days. You know, it is really tough for me since I even have difficulty understanding the topic,not to mention how to write it. Anyhow, I finally make it and many thanks to Kamille for your help! I don't expect a "A", but ,you know, I really care it & want my effort works. If i didn't come to Singapore, I dare say I won't have the chance to write a formal essay until graduation. It's really a bad thing, for it will be too late!

  hehe,talk freely,don't care about grammar.--to kid

  I guess they won't bother you,but if they really need help,hope you can lend a hand.I won't let them act too unreasonably--to kamille

  remember the passage of translation? I am really sorry for my laziness.If you have a try, you may check it now!

  苦痛时光悠悠长长，我们无法将之强划为某季某节，只能记其心绪，录其来袭。

  我以度浪荡岁月为乐，当花花公子为豪，领时尚风流为喜。围绕我身边的尽是卑微、平庸之辈。我恣意浪费天分，而挥霍无穷无尽的青春，更给我无可名状的愉悦。

  世间万物独谦卑最为奇特，如不掏空一切，无法领会；唯当一无所有之际，方知经已习得。

 怎么样？有点意思吧。这是我们老师翻译的。

  好无聊阿，借的书太难了，看不下去了，哎！

  今天在qq上看到孙了，了解了下我的寝室同胞，她们都回去了，全齐了，就差我了，555555 不过有收获阿，我终于知道某某的隐讳的幸福感言是什么意思了，没错，幸福是自己争取的，希望我认识的人都幸福！（谈恋爱也是可以传染的，这是什么生物道理呢？如果真是这样的话，那我就是一等功臣，引领宿舍潮流的人啦，呵呵，真有成就感！）

  吃饭的时候遇到博博，其实这边的理科也很难学呢，她一天就研究一道物理实验题还没结果，看到他们的公式我都头晕！看来我还挺幸运的，好在看书不至于一天没结果。他说这跟高中没区别嘛，另一个人说感觉这边学习压力好大，我说感觉这才是大学生活呢。

       我也想重装，可在nus里要domain很麻烦，自己装不了

       这就是我花了十五dollars来看的选美比赛，选出hall里的king&quene，我觉得很不值，超级boring，不过好像在nus很popular,我现在就只能用gain experience来安慰自己了。新加坡人很能玩很会疯，我现在都开始担心我的心脏了，难怪他们每年要从中国引进那么多scholar。

        我的经验是不要指望参加party可以改变你多少，无非就是认识了几个下次见面打个招呼的人而已，如果你无法放的很开，那就最好别去，去了是对自己很大的煎熬，这种经历一次足以。

        高兴的是见到了新加坡河，其实是比较脏的了，但这里夜景很美，尤其是河的两边都是环境很好的pub&restaurant,可惜自己既不是有钱一族又不是有闲一族，不然真的是享受。我拍了照片，但晚上太暗了，拍的又没法共享，哎。

  刚才去了图书馆顺便进了nus的中文图书馆，发现里面环境不错，很有古典氛围，其实我很想拍的，看到大家都认真学习不好意思拍，以后有机会喽。里面虽然只有文科方面的中文书籍，但毫不夸张地说（我觉得）比武大某些书籍多而且也很好，就是觉得放着那么多原版书不读读这个有点浪费，要不然真的好想借，好久没读中文书了。